What’s in a number? Well, contrary to what your immediate answer might be…take a look around you and decide for yourself if age really is being treated inclusively?
I’ve always been in the beauty and fashion realm, so naturally I love all that’s beautiful and I look ahead to what’s new. But just like we’re working on altering the route of fashion and look towards sustainability- meaning there’s room for improvement- Same can be said about the beauty industry.
Personally I hate the word anti-aging. It sounds like ‘being against’ aging. We can’t help but to age- so why be against it? That would be a losing battle. As though anti-aging were a cure to aging! It’s called getting older because it’s an ongoing process- not something that starts at one specific moment in our timeline. It starts from the day we’re born! It’s an inevitable process.
Let’s start focusing on looking and feeling GOOD, rather than looking YOUNG. Big difference. When we embrace this, nothing stops us from doing whatever we want in order to feel and look great. That includes all types of means to get you to feel this way- from what you: eat, wear, exercise, use as skin care, meditate, use as cosmetics…and yes, even cosmetic surgery if you want it.
Taking care of oneself is important to us all. A good example is how we take care of our teeth; there’s a health reason behind that, but also a cosmetic one (otherwise we’d all just get our teeth done in silver fillings or have them pulled out and remain toothless!). It’s a matter of health, hygiene and beauty- no matter the age.
It all boils down to this: The choice is yours and no one else’s. The beauty industry, social media and advertising should not be the ones dictating to us. In fact, as much as very young women are influenced my the media- so are we! We long to be represented in movies, magazines and social media for what a realistic woman looks like. And when you see that magazines put out photos of oder women that are completely photoshopped- that’s deceiving and alarming.
In terms of how we want to portray ourselves (in how we dress, if we choose to wear makeup or not, whether we choose to get procedures done or not)- all that is OUR Choice. But when the media chooses – that’s off. We need to rebel against that! They don’t own us! Perfect time for us midlife women to shout out: My body, My choice! (Or you might want to sing along to: “…don’t tell me what to do…don’t tell me what to say…you’re not the boss of me…”).
Today another blogger friend of mine, Gail of Is This Mutton, is also approaching this topic.
The more we face aging with a defiant attitude, the more we give it a bad rap. And- our girls are watching. In fact, they’re watching so closely and seem petrified of aging if you ask me. They’re being told and shown that age needs to be combatted- they need armor…and they’re equipping themselves younger and younger. We need to show them that cosmetics and surgery are not there to erase or change the morphia of a person…it’s there to help bring out what you love about yourself!
Young women need to see how we accept ourselves and use the tools at hand to make us feel good in our skin as we accept that we cannot stop the hands of time. I do believe everything starts with vocabulary and how we name things. And calling products anti-age; age-defying; erasing; and more, is counter- productive and non-inclusive.
Let’s stop using: She looks great for her age- or- She’s beautiful for an older woman…and just say: She looks great!
Stay tuned as we tackle the following topics in Ageism, in subsequent parts:
PART 2 :‘Fashion as We Age’
For PART 3: Have you Been Discriminated Because of Your Age? Let me know if you’d love to be involved in this series. I’m throwing around the idea of either a blogger collab where a group of us take part in giving our brief opinion on this topic- or an interview. Not sure yet. Let me know and we can discuss this further. Email me at: firstname.lastname@example.org
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